Heath's Blog


Tailgaiting. Or not.

I was impatiently rushing to an appointment that I wasn't late for the other day when some things dawned on me. 

I had purposely taken the coast road so I could relax and enjoy the view and the peace of the beach.  As I turned onto the beach road, another car pulled in front of me.  They were obviously not in any rush to get anywhere and were driving very slowly.  I became frustrated at their intrusion very quickly and got close enough to their car that they felt my impatience and frustration. I could see them looking in their mirror.  Even though they saw me they didn't pull over or speed up.  This added to my frustration.

Then it dawned on me that I had come this way to relax and enjoy the view.  I backed off, and began to look out the windows at the great expanse of the ocean.  It was a calm day.  The water was a blue green.  The sun was shining.  Boats were going to and from Martha's Vineyard and out into the open ocean to go fishing. 

As I looked around, I was reminded that my frustration was a choice, and that the small events that occur to distract me can only control me if I choose to let them.  In this case, I chose to reset my mind and my actions. The slow car in front of me turned off, and as I looked inside I saw it was an older couple enjoying the same beach drive I was now enjoying.  I refocused my mind to feel a part of the things that are occurring in my life with great relief and different peace.

There are many things that "pull in front of me" in a day.  Sometimes I just need to back off and enjoy the view and bea part of the bigger picture.

Happy Listing and Selling!

Heath Coker, Associate Broker
Robert Paul Properties
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Great post and how lucky you are to live close to the beach!  What a life!

Posted by Mary PAUL, ABR, CRS,GRI, e-PRO, (RE/MAX Advantage Realtors, Searcy, AR) about 12 years ago

Great Heath... we all need to calm down sometimes... and as I know your area well, being in Portsmouth RI, I often do the same as you did, on purpose, to enjoy a break from the presures of work and life... and just enjoy the view...

We are fortunate that we have such views to enjoy...

Hope your market is doing well, and that you are doing well in it.

Posted by Paul Silver, Rhode Island full service real estate firm about 12 years ago

I can understand your frustation and thank you for being an example of patience. 

Posted by Home Loan Search.Online (Home Loan Search Online) about 12 years ago

Very nicely stated...  Sometimes we all forget to enjoy the moment....  One thing the keeps me less anxious while I'm in my car is the fact that my name & business name is decalled all over my car.  It makes me think a little more before I react because they will have my name number and website if I piss them off!!!  Good day to you!

Posted by Diane Daley (Caron's Gateway Real Estate) about 12 years ago

We do get so caught up in the day-to-day frustrations of life but like you said, sometimes we just need to take a breath and enjoy just being alive!  Thanks for the reminder.


Posted by Kathy Toth, Ann Arbor Real Estate Experts - Kathy Toth Team (Ann Arbor Market Center Keller Williams) about 12 years ago

Heath,  thank you for sharing that with us.  I had a moment like that last night.  We were decorating the Christmas tree, an enjoyable event especially with a 3 year old, a 2 year old and a 16 month old.  Then I realized the Carolina Panthers were playing Tampa Bay for the lead in the South Division.  Here I have a great opportunity to enjoy time with the family and I go and turn the football game on.  Oh, and did I mention that we did have the tv tuned to the Christmas Music station?  What an ass!  My story is a little different but you can see that I was missing the big picture.


Posted by Paul Hockaday (Exit Homeplace Realty (Wilmington, NC)) about 12 years ago

Heath,  What a great post!  Thanks for sharing a nice wake up call :)    Really, getting angry wasn't going to get you there any quicker (it would just raise your blood pressure) so you might as well enjoy the ride.  And isn't that what life is all about - enjoying the ride!! 

Have a great day and thank you again.    ...geri

Posted by geri wehry, your agent for life (RE/MAX Select R.E.) about 12 years ago


Great perspective. Thanks for sharing your feelings and how you dealt with them. :)


Posted by Steve Hoffacker, Certified Aging In Place Specialist-Instructor (Steve Hoffacker LLC) about 12 years ago

Excellent post, I added you as an associate recently but forgot to subscribe to your blog! I will remedy that as soon as I make this comment!

Posted by Russell Lewis, Broker,CLHMS,GRI (Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate) about 12 years ago

Thanx for the comments all.  It is a beautiful day on Cape Cod!

Posted by Associate Broker Falmouth MA Cape Cod Heath Coker, Heath Coker Robert Paul Properties Falmouth MA (http://www.CapeGroup.com & http://www.REindex.com) about 12 years ago

I never get impatient on the freeway. All that does is invite road rage, and tailgating is a form of road rage for which some people will seek vengeance. Rather, I simply take at least six CDs of music and put it in the CD player. I also have books, magazines, and my computer with me in case I get stuck in traffic that just doesn't move, such as a car accident or something.

I don't let things over which I have no control, control me, and I just refuse to let how other people drive affect my day.

Posted by Not a real person about 12 years ago

When my son was in the Marine Corp and we would go out to see him before his deployments, I loved taking drives along the coastline. It would give me some peace in at a very stressfull time. I envy your location.

Posted by Denise Gray, Realtor SRES, Wichita Kansas Homes (Realty World Alliance) about 12 years ago